Every man goes through various stages of development.
It's in the hands of their whore-moans.
The more testosterone in the system, the more likely he is to be driven to spread his seed.
His sexual urges will take center stage of his life, during the time when testosterone is being used to fuel the engine of his life. It's in his nature from the time he is born until the time when the little white hairs on his chin begin to reveal themselves.
There are many who bemoan a man's sexual instinctual nature, because often humans are misinformed regarding the nature of human nature and what leads a person to make the decisions that they do. It all leads back to our evolutionary configurations and the deep and intrinsic desire to co-create life. Most people don't sex just to create life, but the urge to join in flesh still drives the bus for many. It's natural.
Marriage, the way we view it to be in modern times, binds people into a life-long commitment with the promise of loyalty and devotion without question. It's meant to be a safe place to take refuge in, so that people can build their lives well with unwavering trust. In good times and in bad, through sickness and in health, til death do you part.
For some this formula works great. It all depends on how the whore-moans are navigated and whether they are stewarding the relationship, or whether conscious thought and action is being utilized even when the endocrine system is doing its necessary work. As the whore-moans surge and wane, we can become attuned to them and see how they are working within us. When a man is committed to something, he will stay the course with lazer sharp focus, unless he is too inexperienced to understand the consequences of acting upon his sexual urges. These urges can derail his efforts to live a noble life in a major way.
A man who is truly committed to his own development will see the traps that come from being charmed by a beautiful woman who will validate his (sexual) existence, albeit in a limited and superficial way. These shallow encounters rarely feed the beast inside the man that longs to be a force in the world. These kinds of encounters rarely allow a man to feel truly seen for the gifts he possesses.
When men begin to grow white hairs on their chins this signals the stage of development in which they are coming into a great power within, not derived from testosterone, although it is still their main player.
This is the time when what he has learned in his life, with all the mistakes and lessons, are used in order to cultivate the force within him that yearns to be of service.
If the man has lead an integral life, and used his consciousness to thwart temptation rather than succumb to it, he may be living a deep and meaningful life full of success by the standards set by the divine. He may have a thriving and robust relationship with himself, have a passionate relationship with his beloved regardless of the time that has passed, and be a steward of honesty and integrity to those who count on him for leadership, care and support.
If the man has not been in alignment with his deepest needs, to be seen, adored, cherished and honored, then he may lack direction and focus. He may become victim to addictions and easy love.
By the time a man reaches the stage where he has matured to the degree where he knows his worth and sees his value, he will need a good woman (or man if he's gay) to stand by his side to empower him in ways he cannot himself.
What I am talking about is sacred union. We all seek it, it is a part of the divine plan. It means joining forces with someone who will catapult you in to a direction that you cannot reach by yourself. The only way to attract this kind of force into our lives is to know the value of such a force, recognize when it has made its way into our vortex, and be courageous enough to lay down the blockages that surround the heart.
If a man has made too many commitments in his early life, it will take a long time for him to find himself, but he will in good time. It's when these little white hairs grow from the chin that signals the time when a man may be ready for the real thing, his service mission, his devotion, protection and loyalty to an awakened wild woman. She will drive him to the depths and to the heights of his beauty and genius.
Because I was married relatively young, and me and my former spouse were married for reasons that were beyond the scope of love and conscious commitment itself, we skipped the many steps necessary in cultivating a relationship that was based in depth and integrity. We were immature, unconscious, unprepared, malnourished, yet we forged on because that's what we were committed to do. To raise our family. We found a type of safety in each other. It was right for a long time.
It wasn't holy in the sense of sacred union. We were enslaved by our whore-moans - that's what led us to our union.
Youth is wasted on the young.
I subconsciously wanted a baby because my body sent these biological and evolutionary urges through my veins, and he subconsciously wanted to be tenderized and cared for. All natural. Nothing wrong there.
The problem was he wasn't ready to be a father, and I was not equipped at being a mother to a man who battled with an addiction to alcohol and neither of us had discussed for even a second about our future together or our relationship before we became pregnant within the first 8 weeks of our relationship. Honestly though, we did great with what we had with what we knew.
A man who's been wisened wouldn't risk anything that would threaten his union to his beloved, because he would have conscious awareness that she was the very good reason that he had been able to manifest a life that he was greatly proud of. A man who has the ability to see with far vision isn't enslaved to easy feel-goods. He is in service to the sacredness of life and knows that she is the portal in which he could sense and feel into the mystery and live holy in meaning.
I believe that every time a union of this caliber is made, there is a thunder storm or lightening strike. Through space and time, these forces are aware of each other and Mother & Father God are celebrating their co-creation in the lives that they deeply touch with ecstatic joy using the elements as pomp and circumstance.
All beings are guided by these all-encompassing hands. But few utilize their power.
Too many woman are bitter and mis-informed. Too many men succumb to false treasures.
Though, all seek to unify, subconsciously.
People fool themselves into thinking they don't need or want love, that it hurts too much, that it is too inconvenient, or that it'll never come their way. I hear it everyday. I deal with bitter, closed people who deny their just deserts. And I feel great compassion for them, because they do not know.
For those who want to know what they really want, they may need a deep cleansing first.
The Madré provides.
You are the essence of my existence.
Who am I? A mirror in your hand!
Whatever you do, I will do.
I am your irresistible reflection.
With every breath, I feel my heart beating with yours.
In your joy, I am exuberant!
In your sadness, I am in sorrow.
If you are bitter, I become bitter.
If you are grace, I become grace.
My joy is when I am bewildered in your beauty
and taste the sweetnes of love on your lips.
If I pick a rose without you,
it becomes a thorn in my hand.
If I am the thorn,
I become the rose in your hand.
-Rumi
Beautifully expressed